All Black women are not just coming at all men with all their hurts. I have to refute that supposition.

Full disclosure: Because I graduated from a high school with a mostly Black student population, then attended the University of Memphis, most of my dating advice came from young women of color. Most of my group dates were in company with women of color right up until I married in 1990s. Before I left home, I wasn't allowed to date alone and, as I said, I went to school with and lived in a predominately Black community.

No Black women I've ever known are doing or would do what you've accused them of doing just as a matter of course. If it's happening, it's because something in your shared discourse led to the topic. If this is a common occurence in your dating life, you may want to examine your own discourse to understand what you are doing or saying to lead the Black women with whom you've experienced this to gravitate to sharing their hurts.

That's not to say you're doing something to trigger them. Perhaps though, there is something innately empathetic or soothing in you and/or your discourse which brings out an ease in them, allowing them to be so open with you – to trust you with their hurts.