I'm so sorry this keeps coming back to your and your family. I cannot fathom the lunacy of bigotry held closer than someone's own child or grandchild. I know it's real – one of my own cousins has lived a life ecoriated and expelled from the family for being gay. And, I know angry and miseralble family who sublimate their real selves trying to not be gay. How is there any love in an attitude that forces such misery on someone family is supposed to love?